I had a friend once who was
head over heels in love with a guy and wasn't afraid to show it. Since boys
would be boys, the fella rather than cherish the lady, treated her like one of
his trophies. Alas when some other man who recognised her as a treasure rather
than a trophy tried to come close to her, this brother suddenly decided that he
could not do without her. Sadly, after he had secured her and chased the
'intruder' away, he went back to his old ways (collecting trophies!). The
brother is yet to find out what he really wants. Perhaps he will - only it
might be far too late!.......
Believe me 99% of men don't even know what they really want or who
they want! Why is this so? My thoughts are - 'even though it is generally
believed that women are shallow, they happen to have more depth than most men
ever have'. Women are an
enigma they would rather not tackle, a puzzle they stopped trying to figure out
since the days of our forefathers! So how can they know what they want if they do not
even know who a true woman is?
I had
another friend who was married to a rare and esteemed treasure, a virtuous
woman in every sense of the word, yet he was not content as he sought after
something he himself could not define. But scripture says that 'by means of a
whorish woman a man is redused to a piece of bread but a virtuous woman's
husband wines and dines with kings and elders. Why would any one choose the path
of the former?! We women have always wondered....
Perhaps you never really
sat down to ask yourself this question, or perhaps you have an answer to the question 'what do men really want'. Especially if you're a man, I'd like to hear it so feel free to share it but
for now let me leave you with these wise words:
”By wisdom a house is
built, and through understanding it is established, through knowledge its rooms
are filled with rare and beautiful treasures”. Think on these things - be wise......
i guess alot of things just happen.and then we're way past the point we should make the choice, and then we know we should choose.but like i said we're past the point of choosing....lol.
ReplyDeletewell i guess every guy should just pray the right thing is what happens for him.
It is indeed circumstantial. Let it be known that not all men import the Oliver Twist-like attitude into relationships/marriages. This is however, not to negate the fact that a very good number of men's want in respect of women are insatiable.
ReplyDeleteBuilding a proper foundation is key and this can only be achieved by living a righteous life. That is to say, before a man embarks on the quest for a life partner, he should ensure a 'Christ-like life' which as we all know, means a truck load of things.
A man who does not know God can hardly make and keep a home/relationship (this also applies to the women) as he would be far away from satisfaction. A real man (child of God) would see his spouse as next to God; he would be entangled in fear at the thought of hurting 'her' in whatever way.
...& except a man possesses the requisite discipline, character and runs to God, wahala go dey o! Shalom.